Fierce compassion is about caring, empathy and determination to alleviate suffering. It’s an active force that drives you to take action. Rooted in love, understanding, and a profound sense of fairness and justice. The fierceness comes from an unyielding commitment to these values and the strength of one’s determination to uphold them.
The focus is on compassionate action and positive change. Not about shaming. About the courage to stand up for what is right, the determination to make a difference, and the unwavering commitment to empathetic action. It’s about being kind but firm, gentle yet strong, and loving while also being steadfast and resolute.
Fierce Self-Compassion involves standing up for oneself, setting boundaries, protecting oneself, providing for oneself, and motivating oneself to make necessary changes. It is called “fierce” because it often requires courage and assertiveness to act in one’s best interest, especially when it involves confronting difficult truths, making hard decisions, or navigating conflict.
Fierce Self-Compassion can come into play when we need to:
- Protect Ourselves: Stand up against e.g. self-criticism, abuse, disrespect).
- Provide for Ourselves: Meet our needs; nourishment, rest, interaction, pursuing our goals and dreams.
- Motivate Ourselves: Encourage ourselves to make beneficial changes or overcome challenges, such as healthier habits or working towards personal goals.
For example:
“I care deeply about our relationship and I want us to both feel happy and valued. Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit neglected when our time together seems less prioritized. Can we discuss ways to ensure we both feel loved and attended to?”
or
“It’s important to me that we can have open conversations about sensitive topics. When discussing these matters, I would appreciate it if we could both listen fully to each other’s perspectives, without interruption or judgment.”
This is about being assertive but kind. Done with empathy and understanding, respecting everyone’s needs. Emphasising the importance of connection with others and with oneself.
There is a lot of overlap between assertiveness and Fierce compassion, however fierce compassion not only involves advocating for oneself but also facing suffering with courage, strength, and love. Taking action to alleviate suffering. Having the hard conversations!
Are there some hard conversations you need to have in your life?
Jen May is a passionate coach specialising in female empowerment and self-expression. She is dedicated to guiding women to follow their wild hearts and discover new pathways to freedom and strength. With over 20 years of experience in the entertainment industry, Jen brings rich expertise to her coaching practice. She is certified in NLP(ABNLP), EFT, TFT(ATFT), Life Coaching(MASC), and Hypnotherapy(ABH).
Jen invites you to embrace the mystery of life, to connect with the wildness of your soul, the depth of your emotions, and the power of your unique voice. Together, you will explore the beauty of being fully alive, embracing the challenges and joys of life with an open and resilient heart. Her coaching is a profound call to transformation, to find your voice, and to step into the light of your true Self.