Are You Strong Enough To Be My Man?

Contrary to the times when spirits and moods soar high—thanks to a few glasses of wine—where I become more expressive and, admittedly, a bit uninhibited, there’s a significant aspect that emerges about handling emotions, particularly my own. It’s not merely about managing a tipsy giggle or an adventurous spirit; it’s about how my partner responds to the full spectrum of my personality.

The Attraction to Strength and Assurance
I asked my partner if I was too much when I was drinking, with a blend of humour and seriousness, he said  that if I ever misbehaved too much, he’d simply “put me over his knee.” This statement, playful yet assertive, surprisingly didn’t strike me as patronising. Instead, it resonated with me on a level that was both primal and profound. It was an acknowledgement of his ability to handle all of me—not just my cheerful, easy-going self, but also my intense, passionate, sometimes out of order side. This balance of kindness with an assertive edge I find incredibly attractive.

Embracing the Full Spectrum of My Personality
The stronger he is, the less I need to be on my best behaviour, and the more naughty and wild and free I can be. I don’t mean cruel, I hope (in fact the freedom I’m given to speak enables me to not get to the point of being cruel). But it allows me to just be myself, to be secure in that freedom that it’s not all broken if I make a wrong move and that he can deal with me, and we can laugh about things together. That security and depth of understanding fosters real connection.

The concept of a partner who can rise to the occasion and handle a person like me brings a curious blend of security and excitement. It’s about someone who doesn’t run away but instead raises their game and shows me where it’s at. This isn’t about dominance necessarily, but a partnership where both individuals can fully express themselves without fear.

The Measure of a Partner
For me, the measure of a partner lies in their ability to be both strong and soft—kind and compassionate, yet capable of taking charge when the situation calls for it. It’s an intricate dance of give-and-take. My dude’s not going to run away (physically or mentally) he’s going to deal with me. He’s not pretending; his strength is genuine, rooted in self-assurance and empathy.

This dynamic creates a space where I feel more free, cherished, and wanted. It provides a foundation where I can unleash all facets of my personality and know that I am not just accepted but appreciated. The freedom to be oneself without reservation is a cornerstone of any thriving relationship.

Celebrating Balanced Strength
In championing the partners who exhibit this balance, I recognise the nuanced understanding of strength. It’s not a call for all men (for example) to conform to a rigid standard but an appreciation for those who naturally embody these qualities. It’s an invitation to everyone, regardless of gender, to seek out and nurture these traits within themselves.

The allure of authentic strength in a partner is about more than just handling the other; it’s about elevating the relationship to a place of mutual respect and adoration. It’s about being with someone who not only stands firm in their own individuality but also respects and uplifts yours.

So, to all the strong, kind-hearted folks out there who ‘get it’—you are appreciated more than you know. And to everyone in search of love, may you find that beautiful balance of strength and tenderness that makes life together not just manageable, but magically vibrant.