A Method To Gently Asserting Boundaries.
- Identify Your Boundaries: Understand your limits and values.
- Communicate Clearly: Express your boundaries directly.
- Use “I” Statements: Frame needs from your perspective, e.g., “I need quiet time in the evenings.”
- Set Consequences: Make clear what will happen if boundaries are crossed, like ending a conversation if criticism continues.
- Start Small: Begin with easier boundaries to build confidence.
- Practice Self-Respect: Remind yourself that your needs are valid.
- Maintain Consistency: Enforcing boundaries consistently reinforces their importance.
- Anticipate Resistance: Be prepared to reassert boundaries firmly if challenged.
- Seek Support: Sometimes, a conversation with a friend can bolster your resolve.
- Engage in Self-Care: Replenish your energy through activities that support your well-being.
No Need To Be Perfect –
Start Small – Small Steps in the Right Direction
I’ve noticed that for me, the most helpful thing in setting boundaries is to remind myself of the principles mentioned above. Taking a walk or giving myself some time to consider the right, gentle, and loving language for both myself and others, then taking a small step in the right direction, has been beneficial. We don’t need to be perfect! I also remind myself of the wonderful role models in my life who have exemplified this approach.
Conclusion
Asserting boundaries is about ensuring your own growth and well-being, as much as it is about managing how others treat you. Remember, it’s a form of self-care that allows you to thrive.
Jen May is a passionate coach specialising in female empowerment and self-expression. She is dedicated to guiding women to follow their wild hearts and discover new pathways to freedom and strength. With over 20 years of experience in the entertainment industry, Jen brings rich expertise to her coaching practice. She is certified in NLP(ABNLP), EFT, TFT(ATFT), Life Coaching(MASC), and Hypnotherapy(ABH).
Jen invites you to embrace the mystery of life, to connect with the wildness of your soul, the depth of your emotions, and the power of your unique voice. Together, you will explore the beauty of being fully alive, embracing the challenges and joys of life with an open and resilient heart. Her coaching is a profound call to transformation, to find your voice, and to step into the light of your true Self.